Following on from May’s post this month I’ve put a lot of focus on myself and self-love. This is something I’ve struggled with over the years and often feel like it’s selfish, however, I’m learning that if I’m not in the best place then I can’t be there for my friends and family so working on loving your self has long term benefits for your relationships even when you are doing the work to change your views on yourself is hard work and feels quite insular.
Something I’ve decided to do is to become my own biggest raving fan!! We all have businesses/brands that we love and rave about them to friends and family, we are their unpaid salesforce, if I became this to myself and my business who knows where it might lead me, it’s worth a try I feel as what I have I got to lose by doing this, I might get a few people unfollow me but that’s ok as they’re not my people!!
If I’m honest I do feel a little uneasy about it as it’s not something I’m used to doing but like with any new skill, the more you do it the easier and more natural it gets. This is still a work in progress so watch this space!! I know that if I want the business/career/life to grow and prosper I NEED to get over myself & do more self-promotion and shout about my amazing skills and knowledge. I totally believe I am AWESWOME at what I do (that has taken me an age to publically say that), many people have been telling that for years and now I believe them!! And now I need to tell others too so they can benefit from what I do.
After a friend gifted me a book called Real Love by Sarhon Salzberg after reading one of my earlier blog post which I had on my Kindle and have been reading a little bit each day, and for those who don’t’ have a kindle what it does is often suggests books to you which are similar to the ones you’ve already got in your library and one evening it suggested another book to me which I devoured over about a week and started to practice some of the things that Kamal had done as they made total sense to me and if they worked for him, they might work for me. I subsequently bought both the follow on book from this and his first novel!
The same friend also gifted me a book called I am Enough by Marissa Peer as an audible book and again it really resonated with me
I know most people reading this will have had the feeling of…
- I’m not good enough
- I’m not strong enough
- I’m not pretty enough
- I’m not brainy enough
- I’m not brave enough
- I’m not… (fill in the blank)… enough
I know over the years I’ve felt not good enough and many other “not enough” so again this book is helping to realise that I AM ENOUGH!
One area of my life where I know that putting the hard work in pays dividends for lots of other areas of my life and that’s physical activity when I’m moving more I feel like I can take on the world, my whole outlook gets transformed (There is so much scientific evidence to back this up too!). Some of you might have noticed recently on my social media channels that I’ve up the amount of physical activity I’m doing and I’m absolutely loving it. I’m on a bit of a secret mission/challenge which I will share the details of very soon.
Although my current work/life situation hasn’t changed since the last blog and still in a quite precarious situation (like a lot of other people I know), every day I’m seeing it with new eyes/perspectives that make me believe that ANYTHING is POSSIBLE if I just show myself more love and compassion.
The reason I believe this is that for many years I’ve been following teachers in the world of laws of attraction and the universe which simply put is all about what you give out, reflects back at you (like vibrations), the thoughts you have then create the world you live in. So if I think and feel love and compassion to myself that’s what the universe will give back to me!! This does sound very simple, in practice I still find it quite challenging but I’m getting better and better at it each day.
So until next time, I wish love, health and happiness.